We've been sitting on the edge of our seats the last few days, checking and double-checking our cell phones, watching all of the in-laws' status updates on facebook....waiting for the safe arrival of our newest, precious, already adored niece.
It's got me thinking...how do you know when you're done? You know, making babies?
Since JJ was born, we get that question a lot. "So, you got one of each, does that mean you're done now?"
Probably. Our family feels complete. Right now. But I'm not ready to say that we're done.
I was miserable being pregnant, but I can't imagine never being pregnant again.
I didn't have a BAD labor, but the very first thing I thought right after JJ was born was "I shouldn't do that again". (If he asks, please tell him that thought came after all the wonderful loving mommy thoughts). It makes me sad to think that I might never go through labor again. I know. I'm crazy. Peanut-lover tells me that every day. It is just a very powerful, miraculous experience. Something only I can do for my family.
And don't get me started on not ever having a newborn again. Sniff.
So how do you know that you're done? Do you just decide and then go through the baby clothes and cry it all out at once? Or does it just sneak up on you and one day you realize that your family is complete? I have a feeling that no matter how it happens, there will be tears shed. Although I'm pretty sure they won't be from the Peanut-lover. He's done.
That is a great question! One I struggle with for sure. Somedays I feel like my plate is full and we are complete, until you get me around a baby (and nevermind the fact that everyone around me is having babies right now), then I want just one more! I think part of it for me is that I have three boys and I would like to have a girls someday, not likely I know! The boys all talk about it and want a baby. I think at this point, I am okay either way, whatever you decide God! I think even if you decide not to have more, you will still have times where you question it and miss having a baby around. Then you have to wait for grandchildren. At least in the family you married into, there seems to be lots of babies to hold if you get too sad!
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ReplyDeleteI knew you would think that! But it's not directed at you. I figured there's the chance that for people not familiar with blogs, it just might not occur to them why I am using the aliases....or to be careful about identifying details in what they write.
ReplyDeleteYeah, Harmony, being married into a large family does mean I get to hold a lot of babies, but that also means I get reminded about the question A LOT! I see how beautiful my pregnant SIL's are and I want to be there again. And every time I hold a new niece or nephew, I'm reminded about how big my kids are getting!
ReplyDeleteDearest peanut, if I could have, I would have had many more children. I was blessed so abundantly that God gave me the two most precious lives to love, encourage, empower, teach and direct. These precious little ones cause me to 'grow up' into the successful adult I am today. They filled me with a love far greater than I could have ever imagined. They taught me about unconditional love, enduring stamina, unrelenting patience and the ability to laugh and be free and silly. I couldn't have done it without them. Each one brought with their little personalities and life a new dimension to my life. Being a parent is more than just those 'fuzzy' feelings. It encompasses a great responsibility about bringing a new life, a new inspiration, a new visionary into our present world, not only our physical world but our inner world making it a better place. We all know the world we live in isn't perfect and my generation - the wasteful one is grateful for the generation we gave birth to that is changing our world. It truly is all about perspective. I know that I would have never been complete without having my children - please remember they were my 8th and 10th pregnancies. Each little life that began within my being was for a specially designed purpose. Could I question God on what and why those purposes where and that I didn't understand or should I try again? Of course! However, a woman knows her body and her heart and she and only she will know when carrying that last precious miracle, the most delightful, inspirational gift from God is complete. You will know my little one - you will know. With such a grateful heart for all that you have given me through your life.
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